Date: 20 Apr 2006 04:30:59|
From: The Waterboy
Subject: Being a good team player...
Something happened in league last night that made me want to start a
thread about what it means to be a good team player. I bowl in a
scratch league on Wednesday nights and we have a decent team that is
contending for one of the top spots. It is a fairly competetive league
and although we can be dominating when we are on, we have our hands
full most nights. I have been getting along with all the people on the
team fine but for about the past two months or so the anchor guy is
really starting to annoy me.
The problem is, this guy is a younger guy who is a little immature and
he carries this chip on his shoulder about bowling that makes him soo
competetive that he even competes with his own teammates, mostly me.
Normally I would say a little friendly competition is fine, even
amongst teammates, but this guy has been chasing me all year in
average and has been letting me know about it every week he has been
closing the gap and now that he has eclipsed me. My take is, we get
enough competition and pressure from our opponents, I don't need any
more needling from a teammate about who is performing better than who
every week. This guy supposedly comes from a well known family in the
area that has members in the local bowling hall of fame going back
generations, blah blah blah and I guess he had it in his mind that he
wouldn't feel satisfied with himself until he beat me in average and
proved his pedigree.
I'm hoping now that he has accomplished his goal he will shut up about
it and just bowl but after bowling with this guy the whole year it
seems to me that bowling to someone like him has a lot more to do with
his ego and less about the team. You can kind of tell because some
guys, even when the team is doing well in the game, always act moody
and complain when they are not doing well themselves. I hear this guy
talk to himself when he is having an off game, calculating his max
score possibility after every frame and whining about it when it
doesn't meet his criteria for a good game. The guy is a good bowler
and it has been beneficial for us to have him on the team but enough
is enough already. I am considering not coming back to the team next
year just because I can't stand this guys attitude. My current mindset
is that if my enjoyment of the game is reduced by the way someone on
my team is, then it is not worth it to bowl with them no matter how
good they are, or am I just being silly?